Homophobia

Several of my friends have said that it is impossible to separate a person from their actions, so if I oppose someone's actions I really oppose that person. I think this is short-sighted and ignores even the most basic relationships. I wouldn't stop loving my brothers regardless of the actions they took. If they insulted my cooking or if they went on a murderous rampage, I would still love them. People clearly have the capacity to oppose someone's actions and still love the person.

In the case of homosexuality, many claim it is more than an action, it is an identity. I don't think that changes the analysis. I don't oppose someone being attracted to the same sex. So if homosexuality is defined as the person's identity, then I don't oppose it. It is only the actions that follow. Likewise, I'd oppose that action by an unmarried heterosexual couple. Yet no one claims I hate all unmarried heterosexuals who want to sleep together. Why is that? If opposing homosexual intercourse means I hate homosexuals, why doesn't opposing unmarried intercourse mean I hate unmarried people?